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17/07/2018 by Lisa McDonald

Anthony Robbins: Getting Caught In A Mental Trap

Today’s wise words on getting caught in a mental trap comes from American Tony Robbins (born 1960). Tony Robbins is an author, entrepreneur, philanthropist and life coach. He has touched many people’s lives – including my own through his health, wealth and peak performance books and seminars. He has also worked with many high profile people on an individual basis including: Bill Clinton, Serena William, Nelson Mandela, Princess Diana and Hugh Jackman. Read more about my story in a moment.

Here’s today’s wise quote from Tony Robbins;

“Often we are caught in a mental trap of seeing enormously successful people and thinking they are where they are because they have some special gift. Yet a closer look shows that the greatest gift that extraordinarily successful people have over the average person is their ability to get themselves to take action.”
– Anthony Robbins.

The Mental Trap

My first experience with Tony Robbins was in about 2002. It was at one of his seminars when I attended his Unleash The Power Within. At this event he coached thousands of ordinary people to walk across hot coals. The purpose of the fire walk is for participants to experience a new level of what’s possible. He has been teaching since 1983.

In order to get people to do the fire walk he had to train them out of the mental traps. Walking through hot goals is something that most people would perceive as life threatening, and would not even attempt. The wrong mindset significantly increases the risk of burning your feet on the hot coals. It also makes people quit and not even doing the activity. The right mindset gets a person thinking and doing the right things to safely cross the hot coals. So Tony had to prepare and train our minds away from mental traps which may prevent success.

It was a powerful lesson. Not everybody did the activity – but it certainly was an amazing experience for those of us that did the activity! It definitely showed what our mind is capable of when we focus our mind and take action (or avoid it). When ordinary people get out of the mental trap they CAN achieve extraordinary things!

Breakthrough The Mental Traps

Whether your goal is to walk across hot coals or achieve some other important goal, it’s essential to break through any mental traps blocking you. By doing so you’ll be better able to focus your mind and take actions. Otherwise you’ll never achieve the goals and results you want to achieve.

For more information on some of the common blocks that you may need to breakthrough to achieve different results, visit my blog “3 Blocks That Sabotage Your Success And What To Do About It” . You’ll learn – 3 ways you may be sabotaging your success, how these block keep you stuck and some exercises you can implement today to get unblocked.

Another way you can breakthrough is by working with a coach who can assist you with identifying where you’re getting stuck, creating a roadmap for breaking through, and supporting you to take the necessary actions to succeed To see how I can help you click here to book a time with me and we’ll go over the options.

Your Biggest Mental Trap

I’d love to hear what your biggest mental trap is. Please share your thoughts below or send me a message

With warm regards

Lisa

PS Remember -to take at least one action step today to progress your most important goals.

07/05/2018 by Lisa McDonald

Letting Habits Go Can Be Uncomfortable

Today’s post is continuing on the theme of habits.

In my last post I spoke about how habits can hold your development back. I shared a story about weaning my son from his habit of dummy sucking, including how it was holding his development back, his struggle and how we stepped him through it. Click here to read my previous post.

Habits are uncomfortable to change, because they lack the familiarity that you’re used to. However you cant always keep doing it the same old way. Sometimes you need to find a new way … especially if you want to achieve goals. .

Changing Circumstances May Require New Habits

Just as Charlie didn’t have a choice about his dummy being removed, you too will face times where your choices have been taken away. You might not get to choose a change in circumstances, but you do have a choice as to how you handle that change in circumstances. When these times appear you can fight or you can embrace the opportunity. You can be a victim or victor. Weak or empowered. At each step you have choices.

Here are some of the basic changes my son went through when his circumstances changed, which meant he no longer had access to the old habit:

Happily sucking his dummy for comfort
Resisting a change he didn’t ask for it
The discomfort and struggle of withdrawing from the old way
Acting out his anger dissatisfaction, including oscillating between go away and come here
Adjusting to not having it readily available (yet would willingly take it back in a heartbeat)
A new normal; developing with residual attachment

How long before the attachment drops away altogether? … That remains to be seen – he still asks for it a few times most days.

Evolving Habits

Evolving Out of Old Habits

If you want to achieve your goals, then you need to evolve your ways of operating in alignment with your goals.

Just like Charlie, you have habits which help you to feel comfortable. Each one has been adopted at some point in time because the strategy as worked for you – it helped you to operate in a certain way or achieve a certain outcome you wanted. Then you repeated it and repeated it, utilising it routinely and automatically, without thinking.

At various points in your life you will find that your old habits are no longer serving you. For example they may be:

Outdated – there may be more modern options available
Having a detrimental effect which can’t be ignored (like my son’s dental bite problem). Or
Preventing your progress, growth and achievement of new results.

Once you recognise this, have the courage to confront and evolve.

Habits Required for Success

Achieving Goals

Achieving new goals (or old goals which haven’t yet been achieved) requires you to find new wsays of doing things. You can’t expect to continue all your old habits, addictions and patterns and still expect to get new results.

Instead you’ll need to do things differently. You’ll need to learn new habits – ones which are aligned with your goals. You’ll need to adjust your mindset, emotions and actions. And it will take work to start the process, implement it and make it the new normal.

Changing Habits is Uncomfortable

Habits are comfortable – they have worked for you in the past so it gives you a level of certainty. And, you’ve repeated them off enough that they are automatic.

Change is uncomfortable because it lacks the familiarity your’re used to – your new pattern of action is different and doesn’t just flow automatically. Therefore it can feel unfamiliar, clunky and unnatural. You have to retrain yourself repeatedly until the new way becomes your normal was of operating, automatically.

Failing to get started in the first place, or stopping before it’s an ingrained habit will just reinforce the old habits – and you’ll continue to get the same old results.

Breaking Through Old Habits

You can break through your old habits, addictions and patterns – and you must if you want to progress and achieve your goals and dreams.

3 Important Questions

Here’s 3 important questions to ask your self if your serious about breaking through so you can achieving more success:

Thoughts + Feelings + Actions = Results

What important goal/s are you’re working on?
What habits, addictions or patterns are slowing you down or blocking your progress?
How are you going to change these limiting habits, addictions or patterns?

Breaking Through Old Habits

You can break through your old habits, addictions and patterns by:

Clarifying the habits of thinking, feeling and actioning which require breakthrough
Connecting with your motivations for breaking through
Educating yourself on how to breakthrough
Implementing the activities required to breakthrough
Removing conscious and sub-conscious blocks to breaking through

Climbing the mountain: Up Down Neutral Doing it yourself is one option. This option can be done by very rewarding. However it can also be a very long and arduous journey with a big learning curve, as you navigate all the unknown territory.

Speeding Up The Breakthrough Process

If you are struggling to get the breakthrough you want, or want to speed up the breakthrough process, then work with someone who already has the knowledge, experience and resources to

assist you. You’ll get the support you need to make progress towards your goals. In the long run you can save a lot of time, effort and often money

If you have some important goals to achieve and would like some help to break through your habits, so you can achieve different results, please contact me. I’d love to talk to you about what’s holding you back and how you can get your breakthrough.

Breaking through old habits, addictions and patterns is uncomfortable, however it’s an essential part of achieving your goals

What action step will you take today to improve your habits and advance your goals achievements?

Warm regards
Lisa

22/04/2018 by Lisa McDonald Leave a Comment

Habits That Hold Your Development Back

Habits are something that affect all of us. They can support our development or they can hold us back. And that’s the focus of today’s blog post “Habits That Hold Back Your Development”

Lessons From A Dummy

Recently we’ve gone through the process of weaning Charlie from his “dummy” (or “pacifier”) habit. In the early days it was used as an occasional strategy, when he was in a heightened state of upset.

Concerned about the frequency some family members popped it into his mouth, I spoke to the pediatrician about it at a consultation on another matter. He said it was better for Charlie to use the dummy than his finger as that habit created dental problems. He also pointed out that fingers are always there and instantly accessible, while a dummy is much easier to remove at some point.

After weaning him off breast feeding he wanted it more. I saw that it was a partial replacement for what was no longer available to him. Then a few months later I was travelling with a friend and Charlie was in unfamiliar territory, so I let Charlie have it more as a form of comfort and familiarity. On returning home he started asking for it more and more and some family members obliged.

We then started making conscious effort to reduce access to the dummy because he was getting too attached to the habit. When we went out we’d get him to leave it in the car (he liked having it in the car). But at home he was insistent about having it a lot of the time. We then started putting it out of reach (he was able to get it himself off lower surfaces) periodically during the day.

New Awareness

Recently I took him to the dentist for his first checkup. I was told that his bite had become crooked because of his dummy habit, particularly on one side(because he sucked the dummy more on that side). She said that it was still developing, and that it would take around 12 months to correct. Or longer, if he continued using the dummy. She encouraged me to get him off the habit as soon as possible. And, reinforced the message by saying that, if it wasn’t done before his next lot of teeth came through, that jaw surgery would be the only way to correct it. Yikes! OK so that was a big incentive, and became the catalyst for speeding up the process!

Accelerating Withdrawal

The first step was to withdraw it during the day, and only for sleeping. Of course he didn’t take to kindly to the change. It took a full on 3 days of howling for him to settle down. He oscillated between being cross and pulling back from me and being really clingy. It was wearing but giving in would have made the problem worse.

The next week I withdrew it for his day sleep. He asked for it but only made a small amount of fuss.
One night, about a week later before heading away for a week, I encouraged him to try going to sleep without it in the evening. He obliged without much fuss at all. I repeated it for the next few nights including while away. Yay!

He still asks for it most days somewhere along the way. More often when he’s tired or feeling unsettled – naturally, it had been a form of comfort to him.

If a two year old, with a relatively short habit takes that amount of time to adjust, you can understand why it takes us adults so long to adapt to change and ween off our addictions. We’ve usually had our habit, addiction or pattern for a lengthy period of time …

Attachments Become Habit Forming

Reflecting on this story of weaning my son off his dummy habit, got me thinking about how we attach comfort to people, things and situations. And the more we repeat our use and reliance on them, the more the attachment and habit forming they become.

Habits Shape Your World

Whether you’re aware of it or not, your habits are shaping your world. They are creating everything that’s in your life and the results you are experiencing.

To change the shape of your world and to achieve more of your goals, you need to work on your habits. You need to identify the habits which are limiting your capacity to achieve results, and replace them with habits that will will assist you in being successful.

Habits Hold Back Your Development

Over time the costs and benefits of continuing a habit may change. A habit that starts out as a reasonable solution, may turn out to be detrimental down the track.

We may be oblivious to the changes. Or we might be aware because symptoms are starting to appear or get worse. For example in you may start seeing changes in your health, relationships, business or finances. It may be simply that you’ve hit a ceiling and are struggling to make in inroads or progress with your goals. Or it could be that someone has pointed it out to you – like the dentist pointed out Charlie’s crooked bite problem.

Take a few moments now to reflect on your important goals and your habits.

What habits do you have that are :

Interfering with your growth and development – whether that be physical, mental spiritual or emotional?
Diminishing your confidence and courage?
Reducing your progress and goal success?

Reshaping Your Habits for Success

Having reflected on the habits which are holding you back (see above), take some time now to create a plan for how you will reshape your habits. Then empower yourself by starting to implement your plan.

Reshaping your habits is an essential part of achieving your goals. So take at least one action step today to start reshaping your habits for success

Warm regards
Lisa

PS Want some help to reshape your habits so you can achieve more of your goals and dreams? If so, please contact me and we’ll chat about the next step – I’d love to support you.

25/03/2018 by Lisa McDonald

5 Influential Women Who Changed The Face of History For Other Women

5 Influential Women Who Changed the Face of History Today I’m continuing the theme of celebrating women – influential women. In particular, women who have been influential in changing the face of history.

In reality, there are MANY INFLUENTIAL WOMEN in history who have broken through old paradigms. These women have helped to build strong foundations and serve as role models for what is possible for modern women. Today I’ve chosen five influential women and given you some information about each one. Read More …

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07/03/2018 by Lisa McDonald Leave a Comment

Celebrating International Women’s Day

International-Womens-Day

Today it’s International Women’s Day. It’s been around now for over a hundred years, and held on the same day every year since 1914 – 8 March. So:

Happy International Women’s Day to all we women out there,
and to all of us who have significant women in our lives 🙂 .

Today in celebration, and as a woman and a coach who empowers women, I thought I’d shine a light on this special day. Read on for six key facts about its background which you may not know about this important day, this year’s theme and how you can take tangible action in 2018 to support women.

The Background to International Women’s Day

It’s purpose

It’s a global day celebrating the social, economic, cultural and political achievements of women. The day also marks a call to action for accelerating gender parity.

The History – 6 Facts You May Not Be Aware Of

Here are some key background facts to the international Women’s Day I found on Wikipedia:

The first observance of a “National Women’s Day” was held 29 February 1909 in New York, and was organised by the Socialist Party of America.
The first International Women’s Conference was held in August 1910. It was planned as a one time event to precede the general meeting of the Socialist Second International in Copenhagen, Denmark. During the meeting it was proposed, and agreed by delegates (100 women from 47 different countries) that it become an annual event. It was to be used as a strategy to promote equal rights including suffrage for women.
The first International Women’s Day took place on 19 March 1911, and was marked for the first time by over a million people in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland.
During the first year, in the Austro-Hungarian Empire alone, there were 300 demonstrations. And in Russia a strike by women textile workers on March 8 became the start of the Russian Revolution. In Vienna, women paraded and carried banners honouring the martyrs of the Paris Commune. Women demanded that they be given the right to vote and to hold public office. They also protested against sex discrimination in employment.
There were many more protests in a variety of countries over the first few years including on March 8 1914 when the famous suffragette Sylvia Pankhurst was arrested on her way to address a rally in London. International Women’s Day has been on March 8 ever since.
In 1975 it was adopted and first celebrated by the United Nations. Up until then it was then predominantly celebrated by the socialist movement and communist countries. In 1977, they proclaimed March 8 as the UN Day for women’s rights and world peace.

International Women’s Day Themes

Happy Women's Day

Each year the International Women’s Day has a theme. Here’s four key topics they’ve focused on:

Peace
Violence against women
Poverty and hunger
Gender equity

The Theme for 2018: #PressForProgress

The World Economic Forum’s 2017 Global Gender Gap Report findings revealed that gender parity is over 200 years away. That’s why the theme for 2018 is #PressForProgress – which is focused on encouraging people to press for progress on gender parity.

How You Can Take Tangible Action To Support Women

As part of the 2018 #PressForProgress theme, they are calling for people to support women by committing to take tangible action in at least one key way.

5 Actions You Can Take To Support Women in 2018

Here are five areas the International Women’s Day organisers have nominated as examples for action:

Maintaining a gender parity mindset
Challenge stereotypes and bias
Forge positive visibility
Influence the beliefs and actions of others
Celebrate womens achievements

If you’d like to make a commitment to #PressForProgress, I encourage you to click below:

You can advance the empowerment of women by making a commitment to do so, and by taking at least one action step today.

Happy International Women’s Day!

Warm regards

Lisa

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