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18/07/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Questions: “Why do you want to have a Baby”?

Simple questions such as, “Why do you want to have a baby?”, can cause a lot of women discomfort and irritation, and trigger other emotional responses. There can be lots of reasons why.⁠

For starters, many women can find the whole baby thing, baby or no baby, a very sensitive subject. Especially for women as they hit their 30s, 40s and even 50s. And, these reactions can be the same whether they have no children, one child or several.

Reasons Why Women React

One big reason why a woman reacts to these types of questions, is that she feels that she is going to be judged by her answers. She may be feel judged for her decision, or judged for her reasoning. It can bring up all sorts of feelings of being vulnerable, wrong, inadequate, along with many other emotions.⁠

These are all normal human reactions. They can provide useful feedback into what’s going on for us. However, if we get too bogged down in them, these negative emotions can keep us stuck. They can really limit our ability to move forward authentically.⁠

Valuable Signposts

Emotional triggers to questions can be valuable sign posts for our own personal growth. Because, they highlight our sensitivities. Why is that question bothering me? Where are those emotions coming from? Is there something here that I need to let go of?

The answers can provide a springboard for addressing negative and limiting patterns in our life. By clearing the cause of our triggers, we don’t react in the same way to questions. It frees us up enjoy a greater sense of self, and to take the actions required to live a life that fulfills us.⁠

If you’ve been emotionally triggered by the whole baby thing, baby or no baby questions, consider getting some assistance to move past it. If you’d like to chat with me about how I can help you, please book a time for a chat with me.⁠
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06/06/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Life Has Many Crossroads

In life there any many crossroads. A point at which we must consider which pathway to take.

That crossroad might be about having a baby or not, our health, a relationship, a job/business or any other area of your life. It might be in relation to a decision, an action or an outcome. Or any significant event.

How Will I Deal With It?

It’s a time where we have to pause and consider which path we will take. Will I: ignore it and keep doing the same thing? Run away and avoid it? Or, confront and deal with it?

sometimes the answer is clear to us. Other times we can get really stuck in indecision and inaction. Each pathway has it’s benefits and drawbacks. So it can become confusing, confronting and uncomfortable.

Ultimately, each of these crossroads is an opportunity. Either to clarify our intentions, to solve the underlying problems and to move on with our life. Or, to stay in our safe familiar comfort zone (even if it’s uncomfortable) and not solve the problem. Either way, it’s our choice.

But nothing will change unless we make a clear decision and commitment that we will choose a path. Have you decided that you will decide?

Making A Decision and Taking Action

If you’re facing a life crossroad take a few moments to stop and check in.

What is the key decision I am facing right now?
What is the purpose of making this decision or taking this action? Want will it help me to do or achieve?
Am I really committed to doing what’s required to achieve this outcome?

It can take a lot of courage to step forward, confront and make decisions about which path to take in life. That’s why it can be really beneficial to have someone by your side who knows what it’s like, because they have been there. Someone who can provide a safe space and sounding board for you to work through the issues. Someone who also has the experience and skills to guide you through the process of figuring out what is right for you.

If you’d like some support to navigate through this important crossroad in your life, please connect with me and let me know how I can help. Or, click here to book a chat. I’d love to support you in figuring out the next steps

23/05/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Moving Beyond Fear: Taking The Firewalk

Yes this is a real photo of a real firewalk – with Oprah Winfrey firewalking, and Tony Robbins coaching alongside. It is a great example of the power of the mind, supporting what you focus on and believe.

I wasn’t with Oprah when this photo was taken. But I did do Tony’s firewalk myself in 2001.

The Firewalk Is A Powerful Metaphor

It’s a powerful metaphor for what can be achieved when you apply yourself. That’s the reason why they do the firewalk on the 1st night of a three day seminar. Of course they coached people through the strategies beforehand.

Was it a bit scary? Absolutely, you’re going to walk on coals that are between 1,200 and 2,000 degrees. And they tell you all about that and the risks. Its even more scary when your buddy (someone you partner up with to do the walk) had scorched her feet the previous year doing it. Leading up to it I seemed more fearful than my buddy. She, on the otherhand, seemed quite calm about it.

Taking The Firewalk

I moved through my fear and did the firewalk first time.

When it was my buddy’s turn, her fear was definitely evident. She psyched herself up and started to move forward, but then stopped before the burning coals. She false started at least twice. Each time I encouraged and coached her through the fear, and what she needed to do. Eventually, she did it. I was so proud of her completing it, given what she had to overcome in her mind to do it!

We had focused, applied what we had learned and then acted in spite of our fear. Our reward – the success of not allowing our fears to hold us back.

Symptoms of Fear

Indecision, confusion and inaction are all symptoms of fear. They distract our focus, waste our energy, and erode our self-esteem if we let them hold us back.

Think about an important decision you have to make or goal you want to achieve. What is it that you most fear? What’s holding you back from making a decision or moving forward?

Just like Tony coached us to do the firewalk, I’d love to help coach you to build the confidence to push through your own fears – so you can make decisions, take action and achieve the goals that are important to you. If you’re ready to do that, please click here: to book a chat with me.

08/05/2019 by Lisa McDonald

“When Are You Going To Have A Baby?”

The question,”when are you going to have a baby?” can be really uncomfortable or irritating for many women. Yet this it’s a question that a woman will be asked many times over her life.

Common Question Times

This question is particularly common when a woman:

Starts a new relationship,
Becomes engaged,
Gets married,
Has a child

And … particularly when a woman hits her 30s and 40s and doesn’t have a child.

It’s a question that often causes [Read more…]

24/04/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Were You Asked This Question As A Teenager?

Many women have had the experience at high school, where their female classmates or girlfriends talked about their dreams for the future. Often it includes talking about weddings and the families they would have one day.

Next, one of the girls asks the question, “How Many Kids Are You Going To Have?” Then, each girls gets asked what her answer is.

Did you have that experience this question when you were a teenager? If so, did you:⁣

Jump in with an answer of 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 …. ?
Hang back hoping they wouldn’t ask you, with a sense that you didn’t want a child at all? OR⁣
Have some other reaction?⁣ ⁣

As a teenager, we are usually quite removed from the realities of having babies. I said 6 when I was younger! But I certainly CAN’T imagine that now.⁣ ⁣

Over The Years Things May Change

A typical women’s fertility window starts from her early teenage years, and continues until her late 40s, (though some can be shorter and others longer). As the years go by, there will be many factors that a young girl would never have considered. So a lot can happen to change a woman’s stance on baby or no baby, and the eventual outcome (some of which she may be unable to control).

However, some never change their mind, whether that’s a definitive yes or no answer.

Deciding whether to have a baby or not can be a significant issue for many women. That’s why it’s important to take the time to get really clear on what is right for you. Rather than making decisions based on what you think you should do out of some sense of obligation to self or others. It’s your life and your choice.⁣⁣

Are you a woman in your 30s, 40s or 50s and who is uncertain or confused about whether or not to have a baby? If so, click here to download my free resource, “8 Essential Questions To Answer Before Deciding Baby or No Baby.” Or, click here to book a chat with me about how I can assist you in moving forward.

With warm regards

Lisa