When growing up, I had always thought that I would be a mum one day. I was one of five children born to happily married parents. I expected that all the right circumstances would just come together at the right time for that to happen. However as my 40th birthday approached, I was nowhere near having all the pieces together.
I had married and divorced in my late 20s. And here I was at almost 40 with no partner or baby in sight. While most of the time I still had hope that it would happen, there were also other times I felt like such a failure.
There were many baby or no-baby crossroads where I had to decide: ”where to from here?” Do I want to continue down the path of trying to make it happen, or is it time to close the door?”
At each of these times I had to work through the process, in order to make that decision. So, I know how it feels. There can be a lot of uncertainty and confusion. Therefore, it can be really confronting to ask the questions, and to seek out the answers.
Three questions to ask at baby or no-baby crossroads
If you’re at a baby or no-baby crossroad now, take a moment now to ask yourself the following three questions:
- What is stopping you from making a decision?
- How important is it to make a decision at this time?
- By NOT making a decision, what is it costing you?
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Opportunity knocks with each crossroad
Although it might be daunting, each baby or no-baby crossroad can be a fabulous opportunity to gain real clarity about what is truly important. The following quote by Mehmet Murat Ildan captures this sentiment:
“When you lose your path, you get an opportunity to discover a world you have never known! And better worlds are often found this way! Darkness and uncertainty hide presents in itself!”
Where To From Here?
There can be great freedom in making a decision- even if it’s just deciding on the next step. Making a decision frees you up to move forward. It allows you to put your time, energy and effort into focusing on outcomes that fulfill you. That however, requires you to make the commitment to move from where you are now. So, where to from here for you?
If you are at a baby or no-baby crossroad, and would help to work through the process of getting clear about your decision click here to book a time to chat with me about how one of my programs can help.
Remember, it’s your life – create it the way you want it.