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24/10/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Baby or No-Baby Crossroads – Where To From Here?

Baby or No-Baby crossroads

When growing up, I had always thought that I would be a mum one day. I was one of five children born to happily married parents. I expected that all the right circumstances would just come together at the right time for that to happen. However as my 40th birthday approached, I was nowhere near having all the pieces together.

I had married and divorced in my late 20s. And here I was at almost 40 with no partner or baby in sight. While most of the time I still had hope that it would happen, there were also other times I felt like such a failure.

There were many baby or no-baby crossroads where I had to decide: ”where to from here?” Do I want to continue down the path of trying to make it happen, or is it time to close the door?”

At each of these times I had to work through the process, in order to make that decision. So, I know how it feels. There can be a lot of uncertainty and confusion. Therefore, it can be really confronting to ask the questions, and to seek out the answers.

Three questions to ask at baby or no-baby crossroads

If you’re at a baby or no-baby crossroad now, take a moment now to ask yourself the following three questions:

  • What is stopping you from making a decision?
  • How important is it to make a decision at this time?
  • By NOT making a decision, what is it costing you?

Click here to get my free resource: “8 Essential Questions To Ask When Deciding To Have A Baby or Not.”

Opportunity knocks with each crossroad

Although it might be daunting, each baby or no-baby crossroad can be a fabulous opportunity to gain real clarity about what is truly important. The following quote by Mehmet Murat Ildan captures this sentiment:

“When you lose your path, you get an opportunity to discover a world you have never known! And better worlds are often found this way! Darkness and uncertainty hide presents in itself!”

Where To From Here?

There can be great freedom in making a decision- even if it’s just deciding on the next step. Making a decision frees you up to move forward. It allows you to put your time, energy and effort into focusing on outcomes that fulfill you. That however, requires you to make the commitment to move from where you are now. So, where to from here for you?

If you are at a baby or no-baby crossroad, and would help to work through the process of getting clear about your decision click here to book a time to chat with me about how one of my programs can help.

Remember, it’s your life – create it the way you want it.

Warm regards
Lisa

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24/04/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Were You Asked This Question As A Teenager?

Many women have had the experience at high school, where their female classmates or girlfriends talked about their dreams for the future.   Often it includes talking about weddings and the families they would have one day.

Next, one of the girls asks the question, “How Many Kids Are You Going To Have?” Then, each girls gets asked what her answer is.

Did you have that experience this question when you were a teenager?  If so, did you:⁣

  • Jump in with an answer of 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 …. ?
  • Hang back hoping they wouldn’t ask you, with a sense that you didn’t want a child at all?  OR⁣
  • Have some other reaction?⁣ ⁣

As a teenager, we are usually quite removed from the realities of having babies.   I said 6 when I was younger!  But I certainly CAN’T imagine that now.⁣ ⁣

Over The Years Things May Change

A typical women’s fertility window starts from her early teenage years, and continues until her late 40s, (though some can be shorter and others longer).  As the years go by, there will be many factors that a young girl would never have considered.   So a lot can happen to change a woman’s stance on baby or no baby, and the eventual outcome (some of which she may be unable to control).

However,  some never change their mind, whether that’s a definitive yes or no answer.

Deciding whether to have a baby or not can be a significant issue for many women.  That’s why it’s important to take the time to get really clear on what is right for you.  Rather than making decisions based on what you think you should do out of some sense of obligation to self or others.  It’s your life and your choice.⁣⁣

Are you a woman in your 30s, 40s or 50s and who is uncertain or confused about whether or not to have a baby?  If so, click here to download my free resource, “8 Essential Questions To Answer Before Deciding Baby or No Baby.”  Or, click here to book a chat with me about how I can assist you in moving forward.

With warm regards

Lisa
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