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24/10/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Baby or No-Baby Crossroads – Where To From Here?

Baby or No-Baby crossroads

Have you reached a baby or no baby crossroads?

When growing up, I had always thought that I would be a mum one day. I was one of five children born to happily married parents. I expected that all the right circumstances would just come together at the right time for that to happen. However as my 40th birthday approached, I was nowhere near having all the pieces together.

I had married and divorced in my late 20s. And here I was at almost 40 with no partner or baby in sight. While most of the time I still had hope that it would happen, there were also other times I felt like such a failure.

There were many baby or no-baby crossroads where I had to decide: ”where to from here?” Do I want to continue down the path of trying to make it happen, or is it time to close the door?”

At each of these times, I had to work through the process, in order to make that decision. So, I know how it feels. There can be a lot of uncertainty and confusion. Therefore, it can be really confronting to ask uncomfortable questions, and to seek out the answers.

Three questions to ask at baby or no-baby crossroads

If you’re at a baby or no-baby crossroad now, take a moment now to ask yourself the following three questions:

  • What is stopping you from making a decision?
  • How important is it to make a decision at this time?
  • By NOT making a decision, what is it costing you?

Click here to get my free resource: “8 Essential Questions To Ask When Deciding To Have A Baby or Not.”

Opportunity knocks with each crossroad

Although it might be daunting, each baby or no-baby crossroad can be a fabulous opportunity to gain real clarity about what is truly important. The following quote by Mehmet Murat Ildan captures this sentiment:

“When you lose your path, you get an opportunity to discover a world you have never known! And better worlds are often found this way! Darkness and uncertainty hide presents in itself!”

Where To From Here?

There can be great freedom in making a decision- even if it’s just deciding on the next step. Making a decision frees you up to move forward. It allows you to put your time, energy and effort into focusing on outcomes that fulfil you. That, however, requires you to make the commitment to move from where you are now. So, where to from here for you?

If you are at a baby or no-baby crossroads and would help to work through the process of getting clear about your decision click here to book a time to chat with me about how one of my programs can help.

Remember, it’s your life – create it the way you want it.

Warm regards
Lisa

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30/07/2019 by Lisa McDonald

The Benefits of Pruning Your Life

A few days ago I completed the winter pruning of my roses. It’s really important to prune plants because it clears deadwood, helps to reduce disease, encourages air circulation and lets more light in. Therefore, it allows the plant to focus its attention and energy on producing beautiful green shoots, blooms and fruit for the next season. And, winter is the ideal time to give roses a good strong prune.

Time For Some Life Pruning?

Just like plants, our life needs a good pruning from time to time. We need put aside some time to take stock of our life, and to evaluate where we are going. We need to ask questions, such as:

  • Where am I now?
  • Where do I want to be?
  • What is most important to me?
  • Am I honouring what is most important to me?
  • Are my current habits supporting what is most important to me?

Start Pruning

Based on the answers to the above questions, it’s time to start pruning your life. Especially if you are tired, stuck or at a cross-road in your life and have an important decision, goal or other outcome you want to achieve.
It’s time to eliminate things that drag you down, drain our energy and cause you to shrink. It’s time to prune the areas of your life which are not supporting the direction you want to grow in.

The Benefits

Pruning your life will help bring you into alignment with what’s most important. It will help to freshen up your focus and energy. And, it will help to create more space for your life to grow, bloom and flourish.

Take a few minutes now. What part of your life could do with some pruning?

If you’d like to find out more about how I can help you with an important decision, goal or other outcome you want to achieve, click here to contact me.

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18/07/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Questions: “Why do you want to have a Baby”?

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Simple questions such as, “Why do you want to have a baby?”, can cause a lot of women discomfort and irritation, and trigger other emotional responses. There can be lots of reasons why.⁠

For starters, many women can find the whole baby thing, baby or no baby, a very sensitive subject. Especially for women as they hit their 30s, 40s and even 50s. And, these reactions can be the same whether they have no children, one child or several.

Reasons Why Women React

One big reason why a woman reacts to these types of questions, is that she feels that she is going to be judged by her answers. She may be feel judged for her decision, or judged for her reasoning. It can bring up all sorts of feelings of being vulnerable, wrong, inadequate, along with many other emotions.⁠

These are all normal human reactions. They can provide useful feedback into what’s going on for us. However, if we get too bogged down in them, these negative emotions can keep us stuck. They can really limit our ability to move forward authentically.⁠

Valuable Signposts

Emotional triggers to questions can be valuable sign posts for our own personal growth. Because, they highlight our sensitivities. Why is that question bothering me? Where are those emotions coming from? Is there something here that I need to let go of?

The answers can provide a springboard for addressing negative and limiting patterns in our life. By clearing the cause of our triggers, we don’t react in the same way to questions. It frees us up enjoy a greater sense of self, and to take the actions required to live a life that fulfills us.⁠

If you’ve been emotionally triggered by the whole baby thing, baby or no baby questions, consider getting some assistance to move past it. If you’d like to chat with me about how I can help you, please book a time for a chat with me.⁠
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08/05/2019 by Lisa McDonald

“When Are You Going To Have A Baby?”

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The question,”when are you going to have a baby?” can be really uncomfortable or irritating for many women.  Yet this it’s a question that a woman will be asked many times over her life.

Common Question Times

This question is particularly common when a woman:

  • Starts a new relationship,
  • Becomes engaged,
  • Gets married,
  • Has a child

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