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24/10/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Baby or No-Baby Crossroads – Where To From Here?

Baby or No-Baby crossroads

When growing up, I had always thought that I would be a mum one day. I was one of five children born to happily married parents. I expected that all the right circumstances would just come together at the right time for that to happen. However as my 40th birthday approached, I was nowhere near having all the pieces together.

I had married and divorced in my late 20s. And here I was at almost 40 with no partner or baby in sight. While most of the time I still had hope that it would happen, there were also other times I felt like such a failure.

There were many baby or no-baby crossroads where I had to decide: ”where to from here?” Do I want to continue down the path of trying to make it happen, or is it time to close the door?”

At each of these times I had to work through the process, in order to make that decision. So, I know how it feels. There can be a lot of uncertainty and confusion. Therefore, it can be really confronting to ask the questions, and to seek out the answers.

Three questions to ask at baby or no-baby crossroads

If you’re at a baby or no-baby crossroad now, take a moment now to ask yourself the following three questions:

  • What is stopping you from making a decision?
  • How important is it to make a decision at this time?
  • By NOT making a decision, what is it costing you?

Click here to get my free resource: “8 Essential Questions To Ask When Deciding To Have A Baby or Not.”

Opportunity knocks with each crossroad

Although it might be daunting, each baby or no-baby crossroad can be a fabulous opportunity to gain real clarity about what is truly important. The following quote by Mehmet Murat Ildan captures this sentiment:

“When you lose your path, you get an opportunity to discover a world you have never known! And better worlds are often found this way! Darkness and uncertainty hide presents in itself!”

Where To From Here?

There can be great freedom in making a decision- even if it’s just deciding on the next step. Making a decision frees you up to move forward. It allows you to put your time, energy and effort into focusing on outcomes that fulfill you. That however, requires you to make the commitment to move from where you are now. So, where to from here for you?

If you are at a baby or no-baby crossroad, and would help to work through the process of getting clear about your decision click here to book a time to chat with me about how one of my programs can help.

Remember, it’s your life – create it the way you want it.

Warm regards
Lisa

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06/06/2019 by Lisa McDonald

Life Has Many Crossroads

Life Has Many Crossroads

In life there any many crossroads.  A point at which we must consider which pathway to take.

That crossroad might be about having a baby or not, our health, a relationship, a job/business or any other area of your life.  It might be in relation to a decision, an action or an outcome.  Or any significant event.

How Will I Deal With It?

It’s a time where we have to pause and consider which path we will take.  Will I:  ignore it and keep doing the same thing? Run away and avoid it? Or, confront and deal with it?

sometimes the answer is clear to us.  Other times we can get really stuck in  indecision and inaction.  Each pathway has it’s benefits and drawbacks.   So it can become  confusing, confronting and uncomfortable.

Ultimately, each of these crossroads is an opportunity.  Either to clarify our intentions, to solve the underlying problems and to move on with our life.  Or, to stay in our safe familiar comfort zone (even if it’s uncomfortable) and not solve the problem.   Either way, it’s our choice.

But nothing will change unless we make a clear decision and commitment that we will choose a path.  Have you decided that you will decide?

Making A Decision and Taking Action

If you’re facing a life crossroad take a few moments to stop and check in.

  • What is the key decision I am facing right now?
  • What is the purpose of making this decision or taking this action?   Want will it help me to do or achieve?
  • Am I really committed to doing what’s required to achieve this outcome?

It can take a lot of courage to step forward, confront and make decisions about which path to take in life.  That’s why it can be really beneficial to have someone by your side who knows what it’s like, because they have been there.  Someone who can provide a safe space and sounding board for you to work through the issues.  Someone who also has the experience and skills to guide you through the process of figuring out what is right for you.

If you’d like some support to navigate through this important crossroad in your life, please connect with me and let me know how I can help.  Or, click here to book a chat. I’d love to support you in figuring out the next steps

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