We all know that goal success does not come easy, especially if it’s a big goal. It takes more than just writing out a clear goal on a piece of paper. Instead, we have to work our way towards our goals. Along the way there are a variety of things that block and hinder success. Today’s blog outlines three blockages which can sabotage success and five powerful ways I’ve found to overcome them.
Self Sabotage
How many times do you find yourself asking? “Why did I do that?” or Why did I say that?” You know you should have shown up for that job interview, it was your dream job, the job that you have been looking forward to for some time. Or you should have put your foot down and said no to that slice of chocolate cake as you were on a low carb diet, but you didn’t. You know and are aware of what you should have done, but you didn’t do it and defied all logic and reason. But for some reason, you end up sabotaging yourself and doing the opposite. Why?
Self-sabotage is the process of going out of your way to prevent yourself from achieving your desired goal due to fear, lack of self-confidence, and a negative self-image. It involves a mixture of negative thoughts, feelings, and actions that create a block to success by struggling against your own interests.
Blocks That Sabotage Success
There are a number of blocks which can sabotage success and undermine your ability to achieve your goals. One of those can be not even writing your goal down in the first place (Click Here to download a free resource to get your started).
Here are another 3 blockages that jeopardize your goal success:
- Victim mentality: people get blocked or trapped in what they think. Victims of mentality feel disempowered, and sabotage success by believing they don’t have a choice and that they don’t have the power to change things. They use phrases like “I can’t”, I don’t know” and I have no choice.”
- Stress and anxiety: another way individuals can block or sabotage success is by not being strategic. They feel overwhelmed trying to do everything and get stuck in letting go of high priority things. Their brain goes into “fight or flight” response and they fight harder or run away to avoid. It creates a cycle of more stress and unsettledness within.
- History and conditioning: our experiences can be a blockage on their own. The way we grew up, our beliefs, and history with certain situations can make us assume how results will work out for us. These are stored in the subconscious mind – a part of the mind that does things automatically without thinking. Your conscious mind may not be aware of it , but your sub conscious influences 90% of how we operate dictating our thoughts, feelings, actions and also results.
Each of these blocks sabotage success and can prevent you from achieving your goals. They confine people to their comfort zone, blocking their ability to discover more potential and sabotaging success with their goal.
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Overcoming Blocks Which Sabotage Success
At these times, it may seem easy to give up but don’t self sabotage! Instead, invest your efforts in understanding and overcoming these blockages, so you can achieve goal success.
The first step is to get really clear on what you’re doing and to write your goals down. Click Here to download a free resource to help you get started.
5 Powerful Elements
Here are 5 powerful elements which I use when guiding clients to overcome their blockages and achieve their goals:
- Direction: this step is about being really clear on what your goals and vision are and then planning how to move forward. You need to know the destination you’re heading towards, before you head off on a journey.
- Inspiration: this part is about connecting with what gets you going. It’s that spring in your step which compels you. It’s also, the thing which motivates you to move beyond any blocks on your journey to achieving your goal.
- Education: to accomplish any goal you have to gain new knowledge. Progress requires you to move past old paradigms, habits and strategies, otherwise you’ll continue to get the same old results. Education helps you to gain insights, foundations and frameworks of understanding for moving beyond success blocks.
- Integration: once you gain new understanding, you have to apply it and make those ideas real. Moving from your present position to where you intend to be requires you to make an internal shift. You then have to align your mind and body with (new) goal supportive habits. A lack of integration blocks success.
- Implementation: all the above steps can’t get you to your desired position if this step is left out. Taking action is the backbone of these elements, making all the four other steps feasible. Just thinking about your goals will not make them a reality; nor will just sitting there. Goal achievement necessitates implementation.
Real Life Examples
Here are a couple of real examples of my clients who have overcome their blockages, to achieve goal success:
- One client who was really stuck and emotional after she’d split with her husband after he admitted to an affair. VT was lost, suffering panic attacks and unable to work, which really affected her self esteem. By helping her to identify and overcome her blocks, VT was able to create an inspired life that she was implementing, gain full time employment earning more money than previously and got back together with her husband.
- Another client, who was a Massage Therapist, came to me feeling overwhelmed, frustrated and blocked in her life and her business. JP was employed with someone else’s business and working part time for herself. By assisting her to uncover her blocks JP was able to gain a greater sense of purpose, increased clarity of direction, and greater income – through her own full-time business.
More Tips You Can Implement Today
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Your Biggest Success Block
I’m sure you have an important goal or two that you are working on. So what’s is your biggest block to achieving your big goal? And what are you doing to move through it?
Remember – “if it’s to be, then it’s up to me”
Please share your thoughts on today’s blog topic below.
Warm regards
Lisa
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Re point 2, I struggle to be strategic because my fear of looking stupid means that I need to circle around tasks perfecting my understanding before belatedly jumping in … It’s tactical procrastination but it has a strategic cost … If I could deal better with that fear, and fear of failure i.e. if I was more resilient or more focused on the big goal I might produce more consistently. … It’s self-sabotage as a psychic protection mechanism…
Hi Anthony. Fear is something that can paralyse anyone from moving forward if it’s strong enough. And your reasons for it may be buried in your subconscious. Ask yourself if your goal or reason is big enough to deal with the fear. If it is, then learn strategies for tackling it. If you don’t feel able to do it by yourself, then consider working with a professional who has the skills to guide you. When you’ve cleared the thoughts behind the fear sufficiently, you’ll be able to tackle it better. Then, as you confront the fear, it subsides and your resilience builds. As one wise person said: you have to feel the fear and do it anyway.