08/01/2019 by Lisa McDonald Leave a Comment

Creating A Successful New Year

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Welcome to a fresh new year, another 365 days of opportunity to achieve the life of your dreams! I am excited to be back and hope you all had a wonderful Christmas and New Year holiday period.

How was last year for you? What were the struggles and triumphs? Did you achieve your key goals?

If it was a difficult year in some shape or form, or you didn’t achieve one or more of your key goals, then I hope that this year is better for you. Either way, it’s time to be grateful. Grateful for all the things you DO have in your life, and all those things that you are grateful that are NOT in your life. It’s time to review, reflect and learn from the past your. Then to transition into the new year.

A Fresh Year

It’s a fresh NEW year, with a fresh book of experiences for you to fill over the next 12 months. This transition into the new year has created a culture over the years of setting resolutions. If made with careful consideration, resolutions can help reinforce permanent changes. However, most New Years resolutions are made in a heightened or inebriated state, which often lacks a degree of commitment. And, as a result they often never gets started or fall away within a short space of time.

So NOW is the time to set the stage for THIS year. To connect and energise yourself for the year.

A Fresh Vision

Take some time to create a fresh vision for the year. Clarify your intentions, then formulate them into specific goals.

Goals are more outcome focused than resolutions, giving you attainable milestones and time frames. When they are set in a more conscious and committed way, your goals can keep you motivated. Especially if they’re aligned with your highest values and aspirations. Years ago I created my SMARTIES Formula for goal setting. It provides a checklist of 8 essential aspects of goals setting, which you must include to set really successful goals. Click here now to get my SMARTIES Formula for goal setting,

Which areas of life do you most want to create results in this year: health, relationship, family, finances, business/career, leisure, community or other?

2019 Strategic Goal Setting Workshop

January is a great time to reflect on the outcomes you want for 2019, to write your goals and to start taking action. That’s why over several years I’ve run a Strategic Goal Setting Workshop: Life Review & Planning Workshop. Originally it was a full day where you had to travel to participate. Last year was my first live online workshop to assist you in reviewing, goal setting and taking action on your goals in 2019. And I’m excited to say that I’m running my live online workshop again this year.Having the live online format means I can:

Offer it to you at a fraction of the price of my previous offline workshop held in Melbourne,
And … still have the personal connection that made those workshops so special. Click here to find out more ...

Achieving Different Results This Year

To support you in achieving your goals this year, I’ll be continuing to share tips, tools, and insights into how you can make this a more successful year.

If you’re serious about creating different or better results this year, then it’s up to you to take action! What next step will you take to succeed this year?

Wishing you every with creating more of the life and success you desire this year.

Warm regards
Lisa McDonald

PS If you haven’t had a look yet at my program Click here and find out more

19/12/2018 by Lisa McDonald Leave a Comment

Come Back To The Heart of Christmas

During the Christmas season it’s so easy to get caught up in the busyness of the season and to get distracted by issues, obligations and stories. Today I’d like to encourage you to put aside the trappings and commercialism of the season for a moment, to come back to the heart of Christmas and to share your good will with others.

Connecting To The Heart of Christmas

Christmas is one of the most celebrated events around the world, and is a busy time for many people. Too often though, people loose sight of the big picture. Instead they get caught up in busyness, obligations and inflated expectations. That’s why it can be really beneficial to stop for a moment and to reconnect with what’s important.

Below are the lyrics and music video for Matthew West’s beautiful song, “The Heart of Christmas”. Take a few moments now to watch and listen to the music video of Matthew West’s song, and to connect with the heart of Christmas for you. Click here

Lyrics:

I’m going to make a wish this Christmas
I’m going to say a little prayer
Im going to stop here for a moment
Before the moment disappears

The World’s in a hurry this December
The city street’s a shopping mall
I wish we could slow down and remember
the meaning of it all

Wherever you are no matter how far
Come back to the heart, the heart of Christmas
Live while you can, cherish the moment
The ones that you love, make sure that they know it
And don’t miss it, the heart of Christmas

Let’s make it feel the way it used to
Let’s find the wonder of a child
You can see the magic all around you
Come on and open up your eyes

Well you can find it in the warm embrace of your family
Or call up a long lost friend
You can even find it in the eyes of a stranger
When you reach out a helping hand

In this shadow of a feeling
It’s the star that lights the way
You will find you need an angel
The heart of Christmas has a way

I’m going to make a wish this Christmas
I’m going to say a little prayer

Wherever you are, not matter how far
Come back to the heart, the heart of Christmas
Live while you can, cherish the moment
The ones that you love, make sure they know it

Wherever you are, not matter how far
Come back to the heart, the heart of Christmas

Spreading Goodwill

Some people find Christmas a difficult time, and find it hard to be merry. Take a few minutes now to consider someone who finds it hard to be merry, or is going through a tough time. They may be someone you know well, an acquaintance or someone you’ve just come into contact with. It might even be you …

Here’s a way you can spread your own goodwill at Christmas:

Come back to your own heart
What loving goodwill message is within your heart
Picture someone who find’s it hard to be merry;
In your mind, connect with them.
Send a prayer or wish to them, sharing your own heart felt message

Remember spreading love and goodwill shouldn’t just be confined to social, cultural or religious celebrations. So … connect with your heart … spread your love and goodwill … all year round.

You can take steps today to connect with the heart of your Christmas. Then, spread your goodwill with others.

Warm Regards

Lisa

11/12/2018 by Lisa McDonald Leave a Comment

Christmas Stories – How Oprah’s Worst Christmas Became Her Best

Christmas is one of the most celebrated holidays in the world. It can touch many people, from children through to adults, throughout the years. Consequently it can be the source of many memories. Each story of an event is affected by the way you see, think and feel about about what happened. For some the memories are happy and positive, while for others they are unpleasant or painful.

Whatever you experience in life, you have the ability to shape your own story. In today’s post, I share Oprah Winfrey’s story about how her worst Christmas became her best. And, some of the ways in which that story affected her.

Oprah’s Story

It was Christmas Eve and Oprah was 12 years old. Her mother took her aside and told her that they wouldn’t be having Christmas that year. Oprah’s initial response was to asked about Santa. Her mother responded by telling her that there was not Santa. There wasn’t going to be any gifts for her or her young sisters.

Her Worst Christmas Story

In truth, Oprah had already started to become aware that there was no Santa. However, this was her first realisation that they were poor. Her initial reaction was of guilt and shame. Then, she began thinking about the story she would share with others. Normally on Christmas morning all the kids would play out doors with their new toys, and show their neighbours what they had received. Knowing that she wouldn’t have any new toys to show, Oprah considered whether she would hide out in their house or say she was sick the next morning. It was going to be her worst Christmas ever.

A New Christmas Story

Late that night, some nuns came to the house with food, and toys for her and her young sisters. Oprah was very touched and grateful – someone had noticed them! Additionally, this wonderful act of kindness had gifted her with a new story to tell. Oprah had recognised that it transformed her story, from her worst Christmas into her best .

The Power of Oprah’s Story

Oprah never forgot that earlier experience and how she felt. Years later she was building a house which was not going to be ready for Christmas. She asked herself, “what would be the next best way to spend Christmas?” She reflected back on her childhood experience. The answer that came to her was to give other children that same experience, of being noticed. She decided to go to South Africa and to give food, clothes, toys, and soccer balls to some of the poorer villages. Oprah re-framed her story, which enabled her to experience the joy of giving to these kids.

Your Christmas Stories

If your life has been touched by Christmas then it is likely that you have your own stories to share. Aside from Christmas (which many people in the world don’t celebrate), your life has been impacted by many things. Take a few minutes now to reflect on some of your best and worst stories from your life, and how they have impacted you.

Here are three powerful questions to ask yourself:

What experiences you are grateful for?
Do you have any stories that you need to transform into more positive and empowering ones?
How could you share that same experience with someone else?

Empower Yourself And Others

As a 12 year old, Oprah had a powerful experience. She could have chosen to focus on negative aspects of her story, or she could focus on the positive aspects of her story. By choosing to focus on the positive, she got to feel grateful and empowered. You have choices too.

Whether you celebrate Christmas or not, your experiences can be powerful. Your stories of these events are flavoured by how you think and feel. Consequently your stories shape your life. They also have a ripple effect, flowing on and impacting others. Carrying around negative stories increases stress and conflict. It also reduces your self-belief, drains your energy and keeps you stuck in the past.

Instead, learn how to re-frame your stories into more positive ones. If you’re finding it difficult to re-frame your story, and would like some help, please click here to book in a free chat with me.

Remember, your stories and choices shape your life. Just like Oprah Winfrey, you can re-frame your stories to support you and the life you want to live.

25/10/2018 by Lisa McDonald Leave a Comment

Quote: Confusion Is A Word We Have Invented …

Today’s quote on confusion comes from American writer Henry Miller, (1891-1980). According to Wikipedia, Miller was known for “breaking with existing literary forms and developing a new type of semi-autobiographical novel that blended character study, social criticism, philosophical reflection, stream of consciousness, explicit language, sex, surrealist free association, and mysticism.”.

Here are Miller’s wise words:

Quote:

“Confusion is a word we have invented for an order which is not yet understood.” – Henry Miller

Confusion – Action Point

Take a moment now to consider where you are experiencing confusion in your life. It could be in relation to work or a personal issue. It could be related to an important decision you need to make. Or, it might relate to an important goal you are working towards. Then, consider how it is holding you back with your goals.

Next, apply Henry Miller’s wise words to the situation. Can you see that there is an order there.? If not, then focus your efforts on discovering the pathway to understanding where the order is. Continue with your efforts until you have clarity.

If you’re struggling with confusion, and want help to gain clarity, then consider contacting me to chat about how I can best help you. Click here to book a chat.

Stepping Towards Clarity

Take the next step forward by breaking through barrier to understanding today. Taking action towards clarity will support in achieving progress and succeeding with your goals.

02/10/2018 by Lisa McDonald Leave a Comment

How Your Emotional Triggers Keep You Stuck

We all have emotional triggers where people, words, opinions, circumstances, or environmental situations hit a ‘raw nerve’ inside us. It’s like someone pulled the rug out from under our feet, and it can make us feel sick in the pit of our stomach. It provokes an intense and excessive emotional reaction within us. Then, seconds later, there is a response. For some there’s an outwardly noticeable response, while for others it’s an internally contained buried response.

Why do we get triggered? What happens when we become emotionally triggered? Why is it important to identify our emotional triggers? How do they keep us stuck? Read on to find out.

How You Become Emotionally Triggered

The Situation

Virtually anything can be an emotional trigger. You could be on your own or with a partner, family member, friend, colleague or other. The trigger could start with a tone of voice, a type of person, a particular viewpoint, a single word, anything.

In any case, it arises when a situation occurs in the present which hits that ‘raw nerve’ – awakening the memory of a past experience. It’s a source of emotional pain to us , because it is connected to a perceived inadequacy we have about ourselves.

The Reaction

These past memories bring up an emotional reaction, a feeling that ‘it’s happening again’ or ‘he’s doing it again’. By reminding us of our past pain, it creates an associated emotional reaction within us. Emotions commonly triggered include anger, rage, sadness, insecurity, rejection and fear.

Emotional triggers cause us to react, which we experience through the following ways:

Body: Experiencing a fight, flight-or-freeze stress response (‘deer in the headlights’). The body has a number of responses to this, some of which include changes such as:
* Breathing – Shallow breathing, choking feeling or difficulty with breathing
* Heart- rapid heartbeat, palpitations and chest pain.
* Stomach – churning and sick feeling in the stomach; nausea
* Temperature changes – hot flushes; chills;
* Other trembling – dizziness or faintness or sweating
* Can also be a feeling of detachment/unreality (known as dissociation);
Emotions: Experiencing intense feelings such as hatred, disgust, anger, fear, terror, or grief
Mind: Thoughts of woundedness, a victim, deflecting by blaming and judging others.
Actions: Self-protective behaviour such as shutting down/withdrawing inside, shouting, arguing, insulting, belittling, defaming, sabotaging, assaulting, and even murdering or otherwise emotionally reacting.
Results

The Response

Triggered responses can vary depending on the situation and person. Some of the common responses include yelling, arguing or insulting. The person could respond by crying, shutting down/withdrawing or leaving. They might become a people pleaser, become needy, or blaming. Or, they may respond by turning to an addiction – such as food, drugs, alcohol, sex, porn, shopping, work gambling and so on. Or any other behaviour which helps us to escape the pain.

Reasons For Emotional Triggers

Ultimately our emotional triggers come from our past experiences, memories and emotions. They are based on our perception of not having one or more of our deepest needs or desires met. It may be an unmet need in the past, in the present or in the future.

Additional Causes:

Traumatic experiences. When a person has had a past traumatic experience (eg war, rape or violent attack), they can re-experience that event. Just seeing, hearing, tasting, touching or smell something that reminds them of the previous trauma, can cause them to re-experience it. The reaction is often extreme fear and panic (or in some cases, anger).
Opposing beliefs and values. They reflect what we hold as true and important in life. They help us to feel safe and comfortable. When we strongly identify with our beliefs and values, we may find it difficult to be tolerant when people disagree or challenge them. Reason being that they are calling into question, the truth and legitimacy of what we hold dear
Identity. Our sense of self is composed of thoughts, memories, cultural values, assumptions and belief structures. Its primary purpose is to protect us from facing what we fear most – death of the self (as we know it). It does this through developing elaborate “self-protection” mechanisms in the form of beliefs, ideals, desires, habits, and addictions. Threats or challenges to our identity are likely to trigger emotions immediately.

The Importance of Identifying Emotional Triggers

If you want to create different results in your life, then it’s important that you consciously identify your emotional triggers. Otherwise, you’ll be constantly manipulated by your emotions. Furthermore, this underlying tension can drain your energy, trip you up, and strain relationships. Alongside that, if you don’t address these emotional triggers, you will continue to repeat the same patterns. You will continue to find yourself:

in triggering situations,
feeling the emotional reactions,
behaving in response
having the same results

Emotional triggers can interfere with your ability to clarify your direction, make decisions and take action. They disempower you and sabotage your success, blocking you as you try to make progress. Consequently, they affect your ability to achieve what’s important in your life.

If you are not achieving the results you want, then sit down and reflect. Look for the patterns which are holding you back. Similarly, consider how are those patterns being triggered? Next, commit to getting them sorted out. If you can’t identify or resolve the patterns and triggers yourself, or simply want to do it in a faster and more effective way, then I encourage you to seek out assistance.

Time to breakthrough your emotional triggers so you can achieve different results? If so, it’s time to take action. I have a proven step by step process for assisting people who are ready to breakthrough their emotionally triggered patterns. Simply click here to book a chat to find out how I can best assist you.

Ultimately, it’s up to you to create the life you desire – take at least one action step today towards achieving your important goals.

Warm regards

Lisa